My husband died in February 2007. Then my dear mother passed a month later.
I deeply miss their physical presence, but their spirits and love will always be with me. I’m grateful for my faith in God, along with friends, family, and clients who offered loving support during that transition time.
Yes, managing grief at the death of a loved one is difficult. You may have experienced a similar intense heartache like mine when your husband died.
As the executor of my husband’s and my mother’s wills, I had two estates to settle. That was pretty straightforward work, although time consuming. They both did almost everything right in terms of their end-of-life planning.
Writing a will that clearly explains your final wishes is a lasting gift for those you leave behind. What a meaningful bequest for your loved ones! It could be called “tying up the loose ends of our lives.” In addition to a will, you may also have a trust. Have you completed a living will and appointed a health-care advocate to make decisions about your treatment if you have a terminal illness? Have you given durable power of attorney to someone you trust who would help with financial decisions if necessary? If you have young children, have you made provisions for their care if you die prematurely? Left undone, incomplete estate plans may cause pain, guilt, sorrow, and regret for family members. That’s on top of the grief they feel. Ouch!
It’s been said that half of all lawyers die with unfinished estate plans. That’s understandable. Preparing for one’s death demands that you confront a toxic mix of chaotic emotions and enervating details.
As you think about your own end-of-life plans, are all of your loose ends tied up? Doing so is a great final gift for those you care for. And that includes telling people you love them—today. Waiting until sometime in the future may be too late.